by Becky Vieira posted in Parenting

I'm still waiting for a book that actually talks about the real realities of new motherhood. How the early days of breastfeeding don't just hurt, it feels like your nipple is being inserted into a pencil sharpener. How you won't just be tired, you'll feel as if you're the subject of a sleep-deprivation study performed by sadists.
You?ll also be lonely. True, the population of your household will increase by at least one. Friends and family members will be visiting. Your partner may even be home on family leave. There will be more people around you than usual. Yet you'll feel like you?re stranded atop a glacier in the middle of the ocean. Alone, with no one in sight.
There?s a cure. It?s mentioned, but I found its importance was glossed over. It should be written in bold and surrounded by flashing lights: moms need other moms friends. It?s imperative to our survival as new moms -- no, just as moms at any stage. As humans, too.
And while befriending any person who is or has been responsible for raising a tiny human, one who?s doing so at roughly the same stage as you is even better. There is something magical about telling a friend, "My child screams like a howler monkey the second we step inside a restaurant," and hearing "Same here!" in response.
Sounds pretty great, right" It is. However, making those mom friends is difficult. At least it was for me.
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