How to support a friend navigating baby loss during the holidays
by Tara Shafer posted in Parenting
For the bereaved, impending holidays are often fraught. The beauty of the season, strung lights and candles, may strike a discordant note when one is grieving baby loss. The experience of and emphasis on family as part of a holiday tradition and seasonal lore rests somewhere between poignant and crushing.
My son was stillborn in December and I associate his death quite literally with chestnuts roasting on an open fire in carts in New York City, and horse-drawn livery cabs. In my experience of working in baby bereavement since then, loving and well-intended people who want to reach out sometimes don?t. I am here to tell you that it is right and good to follow through on your impulse to reach out.Â
I am also here to remind you that there is no timeline for grief where baby loss is concerned. All experiences will be absolutely unique. There is no half-life of grief -- and so if you catch yourself wondering whether to acknowledge loss, consider these most commonly asked questions:
Q: I want to say something to my friend/brother/aunt -- I know [they] were really devastated by [their] loss. But they seem like they are doing so well now. I don?t want to cause pain.
A: This is a lovely question to have. It reflects such consideration -- you are remembering and acknowledging the pain of loss. This is such an act of love. The answer to this question is not straightforward. It depends a lot on the individual, and on your relationship to the ...
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