I never really got the term "rainbow baby" until now
by Melissa Willets posted in Pregnancy
Unless you have walked in the shoes of a loss mom, you cannot possibly understand that pain, or what you will go through as you attempt to heal and find a way forward. Before I lost our daughter late in pregnancy, I didn't get it. I'd let my mind wander as I imagined how it might feel, sure. But I didn't get the depths of the agony until I faced a life without my baby.
I also didn't get the term "rainbow baby," which refers to a child born after the storm loss brings. Sure, the concept seemed nice, but it didn't hold any special significance to me.
I recently came across a social media post by a mom named Teresa Mendoza who, after a heartbreaking loss, struggled to accept the term "rainbow baby." Her daughter Sylvia was born at full term, but without a heartbeat, after what Mendoza describes as a perfect pregnancy.
Upon welcoming a healthy baby boy, Leo, the mama wrote on Instagram, "For a long time I rejected the title [rainbow baby], feeling protective of Sylvia and hurt by the idea that anything surrounding her was a storm. She is perfect, not a storm, we are heartbroken, but she is not a storm, it was a great tragedy, yes, but she is not a storm." She adds about her daughter and son, "She is the rainbow as much as he is..."
I love everything Mendoza says in her post, and I agree that a baby you lose is not a storm. I think of my lost daughter Cara as a perfect angel.
For me, the storm...
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