My 2-year-old's temper triggers my own
by Kelly Wilbanks posted in Parenting
When my daughter Evelynne was just a baby we called her "Sweet Evie Jean," because she was the most content and happy little person. Now that she's 2 we've met her other half -- her wild, spirited, passionate side that gives me emotional whiplash if I'm not ready for it. She has a quick-flaring temper, much like my own, a temper I have spent years attempting to manage.
When she was really small and didn't have the words to spell out her feelings her anger would manifest in self-harm. She would literally hit, pinch, or slap herself when she felt her anger well up. I noticed this beginning to happen when she didn't want me changing her diaper. It was like her anger was buzzing around inside her and needed a place to go. I don't think anger is a bad emotion, but it's strong and needs help to be managed. Anger is telling us something is wrong. It gives us energy. It helps us fight our battles. One time my husband said about me, "You are like a cannon and I'm just trying to direct you." Anger needs to be unpacked so it can be understood. That is HARD to do in the moment because our responses to anger usually cloud the issue.
So, how do I help my passionate little girl manage these flare ups and learn tools to help her as she grows"Â Telling her she can't be angry or that anger is a wrong emotion is only going to stunt her growth. I correct any hitting, kicking, pinching, slapping, scratching or my least favorite--...
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