Please stop calling motherhood your "job"
by Deidra Romero posted in Parenting
Every time I hear a stay-at-home-mom refer to her role as a ?job? I cringe just a tiny bit. It?s not that I don?t understand what she is trying to say. I get it. She decided to forgo a career to stay home. I consider myself a stay-at-home/work-at-home-mom. I?m comfortable with either of those titles. But I hate the equation of motherhood to a career.
For starters, it?s just not the same thing. An occupation by definition is something you get paid to do. Not to mention you get sick days, benefits and vacation days. Furthermore, there is no career on the planet that demands this much sacrifice and has this much reward. Motherhood is so much bigger and much more important than that.
So why do we say this"
I think it?s partially because stay-at-home-moms feel the need to validate their role in society. And nothing makes me angrier than that fact. The role of women caring for their children and their homes is incredibly important to the infrastructure of society.
When we refer to our massive responsibilities as simply a ?job? we are underselling ourselves and devaluing the really hard work that we do. Don?t get me wrong, it is work, but it is not as easy as a job.
We can?t quit. We never clock out. There is no bonus at the end of the year. And the stakes are much higher.
Have you ever heard a dad refer to himself as ?babysitting"? WRONG. He isn?t babysitting; he?s parenting. We aren?t doing a job here. We are mothers.
The truth ...
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