What people forget when they say, "Someday you'll miss this"
by Laura Falin posted in Parenting
I heard it all the time when my children were little.
Usually, it came from a well-meaning mom whose kids were older. She'd gaze wistfully at my chubby baby while we were in the grocery store, or out running errands, or at the library. And she'd say something like, "Enjoy this now. Someday, you're going to miss this."
It never failed to send me into a mild state of panic.
Because I wasn't enjoying every moment of the baby stage. In fact, I was spending good chunks of time really, really disliking -- sometimes hating -- the baby stage. It was exhausting and hard and lonely. And being told how much I should enjoy it all added to the stress I was already feeling.
Here's what I wish moms farther along the parenting journey had told me. 1. You won't miss ALL of this
All four of my children have been out of diapers for several years now and I have never ever missed changing a diaper. I never will. I plan to be the Fun Grandma who plays with her grandbabies until they have a blowout, at which point I will hand them back to my children as I cackle and run away very fast. I'm so done changing diapers.
I don't miss the exhaustion. Or the loneliness of being a new mom. Or realizing in a panic that I'm responsible for the actual life and death of these tiny beings in my house (okay, I still do that occasionally, but at least it's less frequent).
I don't even miss breastfeeding. In fact, I'm not ashamed to admit that now on Saturdays, ...
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