by Carolyn Robertson posted in Pregnancy

We talk a lot about trying to conceive a first child. We talk about the hopes and the struggles, we share our joys and mourn our losses. We talk about pregnancy -- what to eat, what to avoid, even what to wear. We talk about labor and delivery, and childbirth. We celebrate it in photographs and dissect it in stories.
And then we talk about babies, about motherhood, about sleepless nights and feeding struggles, discovering our new selves and letting go of our old ones.
This discussion is ongoing and intimate and important, and we are honored to be a part of it. Still, though, something lurks in the shadows, often going ignored and unspoken.
Secondary infertility.
How many times have you been asked, "When are you having another one"" Or been told, "She needs a little sister!" or warned, "You don't want to wait too long!" We refer to family size as though it's a choice, but for some having an only child isn't a decision at all. For these parents, the gratitude and joy of raising one baby doesn't erase the pain of not being able to have a second one.
Minnesota mom Sandy Jorgenson knows all about this, because she lives it. She talks about it, too, through her beautifully written blog, SandsMama.com.

Sandy's daughter is 4 years old. When she was 18 months old, Sandy discovered she was pregnant with baby #2. The life that was already an abstract idea in her head began to unfold itself in detail. Two chi...