After my wife had our baby, she began breastfeeding and managed a successful latch several times before we left the hospital. But everything changed the moment we got home. My sleep-deprived, physically exhausted wife struggled until midnight to get our screaming newborn to latch.
Watching her strain to feed our daughter without success, I felt emasculated in my role as a husband. It seemed like there was nothing I could do to help her. I had already felt helpless throughout the birth, and now I was feeling that way again at a time when my wife needed to recover. And when I had to wake her a mere two hours into her sleep because the baby wouldn?t stop crying and wanted to feed again, I felt even worse.
But breastfeeding was something she really wanted to do, so I saw it as my job to give her every opportunity to succeed. I knew I couldn’t do the actual feeding, but I was desperate to make myself useful. Here?s how I learned to be helpful?and how you can too. 1. Your hands are free?find a way to lend one

Your primary role in this journey is that of a butler. I can?t even count the number of times my wife would start a feed and then realize the remote was just out of reach, the drink was on the wrong side of the table or she needed a snack (perhaps even a main course). At first, I found this rather annoying, but I quickly put my ego aside, realized that my wife was fairly limited and even learned to anticipate what she needed before she asked.
2. Get the massage...