7 things to never say to a single mom by choice
I?m what’s often called a ?single mom by choice” (SMBC), also sometimes called a ?choice mom.? According to the website Single Mothers by Choice, this means that I?m a ?single woman who decides to become a mother knowing, at least at the outset, that she will be the sole parent of her child.? For me, this was done with an anonymous sperm donor. I was 34, no boyfriend or husband prospects on the horizon, and my fertility was waning (yes, clinically?I had tests run). I didn?t mind waiting to find the right guy, but I didn?t want to let my fertility pass me by, either.
It?s a funny thing: When a person gets pregnant or has a child, no matter what the situation, all of a sudden people?s filters seem to disappear. Most of the time, when someone made the assumption about a daddy or that I was married, I?d gently tell them it was just me and that I used a donor. More often than not, I was met with enthusiasm and things like ?that?s so cool!? Friends messaged me to tell me they?d been thinking about doing the same, or asked questions about the process. Even my then-90-year-old grandmother?s friends thought it was great. ?I wish my granddaughter would do that,” they’d say. “I?m still waiting for her to have kids!? I appreciated honest, respectful questions, and was honest in my answers; I think it?s important to show that there are many ways to become a mother. And yet, there are still many (many!) people who say offensive things like the following.
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