When you Google ?single and pregnant? the results are predominately based around survival, and for good reason; the solo-and-pregnant struggle is real. Though the single-parent-by-choice movement is growing bigger all the time, it?s still not an intentional decision for the majority of the population. As a result, most articles seem to focus on how to get through the next nine months with some shred of sanity, and stress the importance of asking for help. I?m not saying these narratives aren?t important?pregnancy is hard with any relationship status, and ?getting through it? is so often the verbiage used regardless of whether a woman is in a relationship. Growing a human is a strange, uncomfortable, foreign endeavour even at the best of times. But when I decided to get pregnant on my own?a route that made me feel more in control than relying on finding a partner that could potentially not stick around?I was determined to challenge the norm, to ask unexpected questions, like ?Forget survival, what about fun"? If Miranda in Sex and the City (a pregnant icon in my books) could hit the club with her girlfriends and carry on having single sex with eligible bachelors, what was to stop me" Maybe that?s why, like going to spin class or eating sushi, I never thought twice about dating through my pregnancy. In my (perhaps naive) opinion, fear is the worst enemy of a healthy mom (and healthy baby).
Back in January, I was spending my New Year?s Eve in Palm Springs at a mid...