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It?s only natural to want to be chummy with the parents of your kids? friends, especially if your child spends a lot of time with her little pal. But just because the wee ones enjoy each other?s company doesn?t mean the moms and dads have to. (Of course, until your kid starts having playdates at friends? homes without you needing to tag along, you?ll have to at least be cordial.)
?It?s your job to make sure your kid is safe in another parent?s presence and home,? says family therapist Joanna Seidel. ?But parents don?t have to have an active relationship with their kids? friends? parents.?
The good news is that there are gracious ways to get around being BFFs with your kid?s BFF?s parents. Here?s how.
It?s about the kids
Maybe you can?t stand Noah?s dad because he?s arrogant and opinionated, or Ava?s mom gets under your skin because her politics are anathema to you and she?s forever flirting with your husband. If the reasons you don?t like the other parents are like these ? pretty benign in the grand scheme of things ? let the kids be buddies and just steer clear of the parents as much as possible. ?It?s important to put your feelings of dislike on the back burner so your child can develop an independent, healthy relationship with their friend without your interference and judgment,? Seidel says.
Kathy Eugster, a child and family counsellor, agrees that it?s sometimes best for parents to let their kids form a bond with other kids, regardless of whether or...