I love staying home with my kids?is there something wrong with me"
My plan was to take a year of maternity leave, like all my friends. I came to motherhood relatively late. I?d completed a PhD and then worked and qualified for a year of EI. I would go back when it ran out of course! A year seemed a long time to be away from work.
I pumped my friends about their first year of motherhood. The overwhelming response was, ?It?s great!? This was almost always followed by a weary laugh and, ?But I was ready to go back to work by the end of the year. It?s hard and frankly, it?s boring.? The blogs and articles I read, written by smart feminist women echoed this. The experience of motherhood was described as wonderful at times, but the childcare tedious, or even stultifying and depressing. I braced myself for the worst. But it wasn?t the worst. It was the best. And three years and another kid later, I still don?t want to go back to work.
This was a surprise to me and also seems to flummox a lot of people in my urban, professional peer group. ?So, what?s next"? asked one of my husband?s colleagues recently. When I hesitate, she gives me a searching look. ?You do want to go back to work, don?t you"?
At my book club, composed of college administrators, teachers and government workers, I mention our younger daughter has turned one. I?m again asked when I?m returning to work. I tell them I?m going back soon for financial reasons, but I don?t really want to. A member gently suggests that ?maybe I?ve just never found a job I really liked.?
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