The debate: Should parents find out their baby’s sex"
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“Yes, I found out the sex of my baby”
Dave Coodin, Father-to-be
I?m incredulous when expectant friends tell me they?re not going to find out their baby?s sex. Their reasons are usually twofold: ?I want to be surprised when the baby comes,? and ?I don?t want pink or blue gifts.?
To the first reason, my reaction is, ?Really"? My partner and I are expecting our first child early next year, and from delivery day onward, I cannot imagine a minute going by without a sippy-cupful of surprises: Will my child be healthy" Will it look like me" How will I manage on no sleep" At three in the morning, can poo-laden hands successfully operate a TV remote" With so many unknowns for the next?50 years, ?ruining the surprise? might let us enjoy some small amount of predictability for the last time in our lives. The second reason is trickier. It?s true that telling people the sex of the baby in advance can lead to getting a slew of heavily gendered clothes and toys as gifts, instead of more gender-neutral gear. And I agree that gendering sucks. But, whether it?s a boy or a girl, I?m going to do my darndest to raise this child in my own image: a baseball-loving, beer-guzzling, ambivalently Jewish curse-monger.
If you?ve ever looked at an ultrasound, you know there?s a little more at stake. The 12-week photo on our fridge looks like something James Cameron dreamed up for the Avatar sequel. Right now, we can only speak about our b...
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