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What?s on the minds of married women" I asked and you answered.  At my first-ever marriage summit, a group of Canadian moms gathered to tell me what matters most to them in their marriages. Here are their top five relationship peeves, surprising insights, and prescriptions for change. (Guys, get ready. It?s your turn next?.)
1. ?I don?t exist anymore ? it?s all about the kids and his job.?

In the chaos of daily life moms often feel like their needs fall to the bottom of the list ? if they make the list at all. ?Sometimes I start to wonder if I?m invisible,? says Leah. ?I mean, he?s such a good father, but what about me" Don?t I matter anymore"?
Prescription: I heard a lot of, ?I know he loves me, but?? at our summit. That ?but? disguises a whole lot of hurt. And the solution is simple: time. Institute regular date nights with your mate. Reconnect. Reaffirm the two of you as a pair, as an ?us.” And remember, you can?t have a solid ?we? without a ?me.” If he doesn?t see you, perhaps it?s because you can?t see yourself. Is it possible that you have lost sight of who you are" 2. ?His idea of communication is the cold shoulder.?

Moms often get frustrated over their partner’s style of conflict resolution. They find themselves talking (OK, sometimes shouting) at a retreating back, or conversely, dodging sarcastic barbs. And the worst thing is, nothing ever gets resolved.
Prescription: I?ll wager that 90 percent of your fi...