I wasn?t a hugger as a kid. This is evident in a picture taken of me at age four with my mom. She has her arm around me, ready to take a sweet mother-daughter photo, except I?m standing there stiffly uninterested. It?s actually a cute shot, but my body language makes it clear that physical contact just isn?t my thing.
I recently discovered The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman, and at the back of the book is a quiz that helps you determine your preferred method of emotional communication. Chapman explains how understanding a person?s primary method for experiencing love can help deepen your relationship with them. Once you?ve completed the quiz, which is also available online, you?ll have a better understanding of what your love languages are in order of most relevant to least. Here?s a breakdown of how each love language works:
1. Words of affirmation
This is when someone needs to hear positive vocal sentiments confirming they?re needed and wanted. With kids, there are tons of ways you can satisfy those needs. Saying thank you when they do something for you, complimenting them and saying you?re happy to see them are easy ways to boost their confidence.
2. Receiving gifts
It?s no secret kids love gifts, but some might like them more than others. If this worries you, try not to assume it means greediness. It also means simple things can make them feel loved, like a handwritten note in their lunch bag, receiving stickers or packing a favourite granola bar. Small, meaningful ge...